Here's the thing: It never seems to be over, done with, finished. You grieve, you weep, you think tomorrow will be better...but it's not.
And that is because you can't get over it until you go through the process of grieving...or so the experts say. Mainly what I've learned is that every widow/widower is "different" and however they feel IS right. In other words, there is NO right way to grieve and there is NO right way to mourn. You must do it on your own terms and in YOUR own way. To each their own.
One of my problems is that I seem to be unable to get out of bed in the morning. And whereas I always had a problem with insomnia before, now I just want to curl up in the bed and NOT get up in the morning. I feel like I could sleep all day, if I could just stay in bed. However, I DO have the cats to care for...and that does make me get up every day.
I don't know...this grief for the loss of a spouse...is soooo alien. I sometimes don't know what is coming at me next.
And so it goes...